I am most happy now.
Before, waking up meant darkness.
Sadness.
Depression.
The clock telling me I was too old, too late, too far behind.
I’d walk from the garage — my studio, my refuge — into the front house and step straight into chaos. A father trapped in the shadow of his narcissistic mother. A sister who inherited that weight and learned to make herself smaller. A mother holding the family together with forced positivity, giving so much that she hurt herself — high blood pressure, diabetes, constant stress.
Waking up felt like waking in a war zone.
And I was already fighting one inside myself.
Now it’s different.
Now I wake up and the first thought is:
Act like the man you are becoming.
Behave like the man you are becoming.
I feel clearer. Calmer. More grounded.
I see my mom self-regulating — eating better, taking her medication properly, sleeping through the night for the first time in years.
I see my sister making small but meaningful shifts — walking the dog more, being a little more open.
And my dad… my dad is still my dad. Old patterns set like cement. But I see him without anger now. Without resentment.
And that’s the biggest change.
I can see the war without stepping into it.
I can love them without carrying their battles.
They are my family.
But their war is no longer mine.
And for the first time in a long time —
that’s what happiness feels like.
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